It’s About You and the Road You Travel

What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals.

-Henry David Thoreau

At the time, in the high school I went to, there was a thing called class rank. Out of 918 students, you could see how well you were doing in your class. Well, at least, that you could see how much better than everyone else you were…

It seemed especially prevalent in my sophomore year. I was ranked 18 overall, so I wasn’t getting worried about anything. Other people who ranked higher than me would always scoff and say how they felt that they shouldn’t be rank 5 or rank 12. I would usually let it get the best of me and think about how many AP and honors classes I wanted to have.

But, I let this immature side of me go as I thought about balance.

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While I knew that being in the top ten was my goal, I also understood that balance and doing well in all of my classes is the true goal. I can’t be stuck in my room all day trying to do four AP classes worth of homework. I needed some AP classes, but only in classes I knew I would get an A in, since getting a B in one means just the same as getting an A in a regular class.

Still in the upcoming weeks, talk about rank roared in conversations in class and on the internet.

Still frazzled with more people complaining about rank than ever before, I decided to go see a guidance counselor. Who explained that most schools “don’t even use ranking anymore” and how “it has become obsolete because it doesn’t show how smart you really are”. Breathing a sigh of relief I realized that everything was okay.

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He also reminded me that I should just do everything in my power to “get good grades and have fun in all the classes I choose”, and I intend to keep it that way.

Your rank doesn’t define you. It doesn’t tell you how smart you really are. It doesn’t tell you that even though you wanted to die, you managed to get a C in algebra 2/trig. All it says is that based on this grade, you are placed here. Is rank the only thing students want their college admissions officers to see? Of course not, and they also don’t want to know just grades or rank as well.

To everyone else who is peer pressured to do things that will supposedly “help your future”, I would just tell you that you need to do what you need to do to accomplish your goal(s). They’re your goals, not theirs. And, you’re going to live with the consequences of your choices.

Choose what is best for you, not what society says is “best for you”.

Three Reasons as to Why: People Get Butthurt About What Other People Say

Butthurt.

I’m pretty sure that we’ve all been in a situation where one of our friends has gotten easily offended over a joke or a small comment…

A couple of groups that you might consider great examples of being butthurt are the Westboro Baptist Church, people who do something and get offended when others mention that thing, radical fans, and Peta.

What do these people/groups have in common?

Ignorance, immaturity, and lack of logical communication are why 99% of people are butthurt. These have one, more than one, or all three of these concepts.

Let’s start off with ignorance, shall we? Ignorance is just people’s lack of knowledge. It is not the same as stupidity. You can fix people’s ignorance. However, you can not fix people’s stupidity. So, how does stupidity play out for the groups that get easily butthurt? With lack of knowledge comes lack with understanding. Butthurt people don’t know any better, so they get offended easier than people who can properly understand what you’re trying to say. Fixing their ignorance would definitely lower the number of incidents where they get butthurt.

Additionally, we have immaturity. Some, but not all, do have maturity issues… This lack of maturity is somewhat similar to ignorance. Maturity gives you a plethora or information and how to apply certain information. The ability to apply the certain information is what separates the immaturity from the ignorance. With ignorance, you don’t really know the information, so there is no real way to apply it. When you have immaturity, you have the information but don’t know how to apply it. Although, there may be times where they both come into play.

And, without fail, there is a lack of logical communication 99.9% of all incidents where people get butthurt over something. With this lack of logical communication, anything is up for interpretation. And, that’s where things get a little tricky. With this lack of logical communication, words get skewed and intent is lost. This is probably the number one reason as to why these incidents even happen in the first place.

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To the people who get butthurt easily, calm down. Everything will be just fine. Just remember that you are you and pay attention to the signs that I mentioned above.

Home Is Where the Heart Is, but Don’t Forget Where You Are

When I went on my first trip to Las Vegas, it was an experience that totally changed my life. It was the first time I had gone somewhere with friends without my parents. No, I wasn’t gambling or anything like that. I was competing in a band competition. Did I miss home before I fell asleep on the uncomfortable mattress look-a-like they called a bed? Yes. I had even called my parents ten minutes before hand. I was a little nervous, but, overall I knew I was going to be safe and have a great time. The longer I stayed, the more I started to embrace the moment.

Yes, there are a lot of people who get homesickness easily, but it is important to remember that it will be okay and to embrace where you are. Otherwise, how are you supposed to enjoy it? By worrying about home, you start to miss out on the trip and the meanings and memories that should be associated with that trip. Besides, No one really likes being a worried while they’re trying to have fun, right?

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I know, some people don’t even feel the homesickness and others feel it right when the leave their neighborhood. Interesting how people are so different. But, there’s no need to worry about worrying. There’s no right amount of homesickness and most people just say that it’s a natural feeling…

But, to those suffering from severe homesickness, there is hope… There are many websites that offer advice on the subject and how to help you through it. And, you are not alone, but something to note is to just embrace the outside world no matter how hard it may seem at first. And, there are other ways to get better.

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One of my personal favorite ways to relieve homesickness is writing things down in a journal to help me write out my feelings and process my thoughts. By doing this, I am able to understand how I’m feeling, how to identify triggers, and how I can better cope with it.

Honestly, it’s okay to be homesick, and at times, the outside world can deem big and scary, but knowing what’s out there is only half the battle. Really getting out there is the other half. So, don’t be afraid to explore and have fun!

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Things You Don’t Do: Lie

Not the truth. A web you cannot get out of. A temporary escape…

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Whether or not it was told to help someone else or to help yourself, a lie will (and can) hurt you and everyone else around you.

You can lose many things with lies: trust, friendship, public persona, even your livelihood

So, are lies ever a good idea to tell? No. However, some people may consider “white lies” to be “harmless” and even taken as a compliment. The truth is, whether white or not, your lie is a lie. All lies are eventually found out and all lies are not worth telling. Telling the truth is much more important than you think. When you think about it, would you rather have someone tell you a white lie saying that you’re good at math or the truth saying that you might need a little help. Well, with the truth, you can at least fix your situation and get better. With that white lie, you believe in something that is false and it will show through eventually.

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Your lies can even cause someone to stop having a relationship with you. Because you have lost their trust, you lost the connection that you shared with them. The worst part is, once they’ve known that you’ve lied to them once, they start to question everything else you’ve said. You ruin your reputation with that person. That person who cares about you and loves you for you is now faced with your lie. It does hurt, and if they do forgive you, it does take a long time to rebuild the trust you once had.

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Can you prevent lying? Through behavior techniques or some magical syrup, can you prevent lying?

Well, you can try to prevent it, but you can never really cure it. Through behaviour, seeking outside help, and making a commitment, you can help keep the person you love and care about on track.

With keeping understanding and monitoring your loved one’s behaviour, your loved one can understand and recognize what it is that is making them lie and how to back track from it. When you seek outside help, for example, a therapist, that outside force does not have the bias of the person being a loved one. They are simply a neutral force to guide them on the path to recovery. Making a commitment is the hardest thing to do and the most important thing to do. Their commitment will be a symbol to stop their lying and proceed to move forward into a lie-free life.

Of course, like I said before, there is no magical way to cure lying… but this is a great way to prevent and help lower the rate of lying.

Remember, all forms of lying are wrong. And, as the old saying goes, honesty is the best policy.

Fandoms: How to Get Your Friend Into One

Have you ever had a situation like this when you were trying to show your friend something you like?

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The fandom. Something that I believe has existed since Star Trek, and it may have even existed before that. Belonging to one gives most people something to talk about with strangers. It even helps to make new friends. Having your stubborn friend to join a fandom seems like a fantastic idea. So, how do you get a friend into a fandom?

There are three main steps to get your friend into a fandom:

  • introduce subject of the fandom
  • introduce the fandom and how it works
  • how to apply the friend into the fandom

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Any Studious High School Student’s Worst Nightmare: Missing One Whole Day of School

A whole day. Missing a whole day of educational learning doesn’t seem that bad at first, until you realize that you have to make up the work you didn’t receive and try to turn in the homework that was due the day you were gone.

For some students, especially those taking APs or Honors courses, have a difficult time catching up with all that work. When I was younger, missing a day of school just meant receiving a few more worksheets. High school changes everything…

Not only are you trying to get an A in that class, but you are also trying to not upset any of your teachers with the reason why you weren’t there.

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In the band at our school, we miss two days in the second semester to go play for the middle school students. It excuses us from all of our periods except for zero period. We would also only be in our fifth period class for about fifteen minutes. It was a way to promote joining our band. It wasn’t that we didn’t have enough people joining the program. We just want to make sure that we have all of the middle school students hyped up for music. Some may even join band. Even if we do have a great run and have fun eating lunch together afterwards, my assignments are always in the back of my mind. Lingering. Playing “peek-a-boo” with me.

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Rushing out of the school bus to get to all of my classes, my friends would scream for me to wait and how it’s not that important. Not true. I wish that was true. For me, I can’t stand not having the peace of mind of just having the high school experience. (Yes, I am a total nerd. I love school.)

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After reaching the classes and getting bombarded with the classes and lectures of why being absent for class is not okay, I would have to run back and unload the truck for another practice.

What about the next day? True embarrassment. Everyone would ask where I was, why I would want to miss school, and if I completed the assignments that were due. Sinking into my chair, I would wonder when this day was going to end, so I could go home.

What’s it like to miss a school day for a student who loves school? Embarrassment and agony.

A Best Friend: Who Are They to Us?

I had a best friend. It’s common. It’s not unusual, in fact, it’s almost always expected to have a best friend. I also know that a lot of people have best friends that live miles away or even countries away.

Over 5,200 miles away… That’s approximately how far away my best friend lived from me. Far away. It was often times hard to communicate due to the fact that there are eight time zones between us. Somehow, we still made it work. I always made it a priority to talk to him almost every single day and made sure that I was not talking to him at early hours of the morning.

So, what made him so special? Worth the title of calling him a best friend? 

Let’s first start off with my definition of a best friend and what I consider to be one. A best friend, in my opinion, is someone who you know will love you no matter what. They’re someone who you can readily share secrets with without any fear of it getting around or being judged. A person’s closest friend.

He did exactly that, making sure that I was okay and always taking interest in my day and how I was feeling. He always used to give me advice whenever I had trouble with my friends or classmates. We both shared secrets. We both loved each other very much and reminded each other of that often. He was the only person who I trusted wholeheartedly. A true best friend.

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You may be wondering why I keep using past-tense whenever I’m referring to my best friend. Well, you see, he killed himself about a month ago… He sent a video telling me how sorry he was, tears flowing down his face, a trembling voice accompanying them. By the time I actually saw the video, it was too late.  He left me as though he were Caesar, taken away from me too soon and all too sudden.  Yes, I no longer have my best friend with me. I never got to meet him in person. However, he did leave a huge impact on my life.

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Just as Julius Caesar took care of his people, he, too, took care of me.

We always had each other’s backs, making sure that we were both okay. Looking back on it, it was true that I was a crybaby of sorts and needed reassurance often. But, whenever he looked the least bit upset, I was there to listen and to make sure that he didn’t have to worry about people not caring about him. I was there. We were there for each other. We stuck through it. Together. And, losing him made me feel as though I lost a piece of my heart and soul.


A best friend. He was my first best friend. I don’t know why he let me go. I’ll never truly comprehend why he would leave me, but at least I could say that I had a best friend… and that I miss him dearly.

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A Struggle of a Fictional Percussion Ensemble

The program struggled underneath the financial and staff issues, like Atlas and his great burden. And it seemed as though this upcoming season was the program’s own Battle of Waterloo that had even more on the line than Napoleon ever did.

If you’ve ever seen a percussion ensemble, you would see dedicated, enthusiastic players that were ready to take on the upcoming season. They are led by the greatest percussion staff and they all have great values that they live and die by.

How do they handle issues? Like mature people would, with patience, and no miscommunication.

But losing some of most important staff leaves the whole ensemble in panic and jeopardy. The members are left with rumors and had to suffer under the tough bureaucratic school board.

The members don’t know what really happened as their band directors try to carefully explain to them What might be happening. It made the ensemble want to revolt like the French peasants under Louis XVI’s rule. Fortunately, they remembered to keep their cool and remember that their ensemble wasn’t just an ensemble, but a family of brothers and sisters.

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One ordinary day, they found out some truth. Two of their instructors would not be able to come back to teach their second semester. The percussion ensemble was fortunate enough to find another instructor to take the place of the two. Some members still didn’t feel like it was the right thing. Others were happy that they were fortunate enough to find someone who could help them for their next seasons to come.

With a skip in his beat and a smile on his face, the new person came in, introduced himself, and helped the ensemble get back on their feet. The ensemble calmed down and accepted him with a big heart. Together, they knew their next season would be great.

Another POV to “Does Swearing Get Your Point Across Effectively? Is What You’re Saying Biased?”

These little girls used swearing to get their message across. Warning, there is a lot of cursing in the video.

https://whatiseeiswhatiknow.wordpress.com/2014/11/07/does-swearing-help-get-your-point-across-effectively-is-what-youre-saying-biased/

The first blog post I wrote about this video from a different point of view.

Did it work? Was this effective?

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